PSI Missouri is Blooming

PSI Missouri is Blooming

I am very grateful and happy to announce that PSI Missouri’s first fundraiser, Girls’ Night to Give Back, was a success. It was wonderful to hear that the women who attending had a fabulous (my favorite word) time, and that everyone felt welcome, at ease and glad to be there. We had a lot of fun and raised over $3500 while enjoying ourselves. What could be better!

I would like to officially thank Abby Goldberg for her masterful leadership, Erin Shulan who is a social media maven and marvelous second-in-command, Tricia Brown for her creative contribution, Ashley Nanney of Feed Your Vitality for the most awesome venue and food, Whiskey Raccoons for their great entertainment, and the other vendors, sunflour goodies from Think.Eat.Live, smoothies from OWN, and Ava Anderson cosmetics from Katie Kurz Kollman.

I would also like to thank all the women who attended and those who donated to helping PSI Missouri (PSI MO) achieve it’s mission of providing free phone and group support to any pregnant, postpartum or early parenting mom who is experiencing anxiety, depression, or other emotional health issues. Research shows that 1 in 8 moms will experience postpartum anxiety or depression, and that for women with high-risk pregnancies it may be as high as 1 in 3. Likewise, it is known that pregnancy and the period following childbirth is an emotionally vulnerable time for all women.

In addition to the services they provide, PSI MO is in the process of becoming the first Missouri chapter of its parent organization, Postpartum Support International founded by Jane Honikman in 1987. With some of the funds raised, they plan to purchase the movie “Dark Side of the Full Moon” about women’s experiences of postpartum mood and anxiety disorders. It is also their goal to show the movie this May for Maternal Mental Health Month to promote increased awareness and education about this critical health issue affecting women and their families.

Please click here to learn more about PSI MO and their services, volunteer opportunities and making a donation or call Linda Meyer at 314-602-5184.

This week take notice of one or more things you are thankful for each day. Namaste.

Recover from the Holiday Weekend: Attend GN2GB in STL

In need of self-care? Most of us are, much of the time. I did not have a crazy weekend but I’ve been recharging anyway because that’s what I need. As Wayne Dyer says, “We are human beings not human doings.” Periods of energy expenditure must be followed by energy restoring activities. What this means is that all the prep and energy you invested in your family’s Passover or Easter weekend need to be offset by some me-time and self-care. Fortunately, Girls Night to Give Back in STL, is what this doctor prescribes.

GN2GB is a fundraiser on this Thursday, April 9 from 5:30-8:30pm at a cool, new venue Feed Your Vitality, 1821 Cherokee. There will be a fabulous dinner, wine and beer, a dessert buffet, smoothies, tasty treats, live entertainment, giveaways including a 60-minute massage, free yoga classes, wine tasting for two, and beauty products and all to benefit a great cause-PSI Missouri which provides free phone and group support to moms with pregnancy, postpartum and early parenting anxiety, depression and other health issues. Ticket cost is only $3o.

To learn more about this event or register, click here- http://girlsnighttogiveback.eventbrite.com. Make certain to enter the coupon code 10LESS to get $10 off the original ticket price of $40. Please bring any family, friends and colleagues who want to recharge with a fun and relaxing evening.

Now, sit back and listen to the Whiskey Raccoons who will be performing live. Remember, whatever you do this week do something restorative for you. You deserve it.

Namaste.

PSI Missouri Supports Moms: Our Turn to Help

Last week, I found out that my first baby and oldest daughter, Jessica, got into residency in general surgery and following much excitement, it made me think back to when she was born 27 years ago this May 18th. When I had Jess, I was already counseling postpartum moms and still decided not to follow my own good advice and got exhausted, emotionally depleted and mildly depressed. What a combo! I was one of the lucky moms though. After 3 months back at work part-time, my depression lifted and I felt myself again but I will never forget the challenge of those first few months.

Long story short, when my younger daughter Rachel was born almost 4 years later, I made my SELF-CARE A PRIORITY and had a great adjustment to new motherhood the second time. Again, I was fortunate and I’ve been a big believer in LIVING SELF-CARE ever since.

Now, it’s my pleasure to give back and raise funding for PSI Missouri and my friend who runs it, Linda Meyer, through “GIRLS NIGHT TO GIVE BACK.” PSI Missouri provides free phone and group support for any mom may be experiencing pregnancy or postpartum depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD and other emotional health conditions.  I only wish they would have been around when I had my babies.

So, we’re looking for women who want to experience a fun, relaxing and tasty evening on Thursday, April 9 from 5:30-8:30 at Feed Your Vitality, a new cool healthy eating venue at 1821 Cherokee. Click here to go to the e-vite invitation. It promises to be a good time for a good cause and if you can’t join us that night, you can still make a donation to this life-saving group online.

To read more about PPD, click here for Carrie Edelstein’s most excellent article which just came out in St. Louis magazine. To read more about PSI Missouri, click here.

Hope to see you there! Namaste

 

Into The Woods

I’ve been talking a lot this past week about Stephen Sondheim’s most excellent Broadway musical which was made into a movie with Meryl Streep this last year and how meaningful it is. I have been surprised at how few people saw the movie when it was in the theater because of its description as “a musical about several fairytales”. While it is that, the story is about the journey of life and going “into the woods” or as Pema Chodron says “the places that scare us” and discovering what we need to know about ourselves and the world around us in order to journey through life with greater clarity and skill.

There are many valuable life lessons, and Sondheim’s score and lyrics tell beautifully. He reminds us that what we wish for my not turn out to be what we want, that the choices we make always have consequences, and that being nice is not the same as being good. I love this film and it’s it’s made such a big impression on me, that I wanted to share it with you

To hear an excerpt from “Into the Woods,” please click here.

And as always, let us know what you think.

Namaste.

Inspiration for March

I talked about Mary Oliver’s poem “The Journey” several times this past week, so I wanted to provide an online version of it.

March brings renewal and a time to re-dedicate ourselves to taking as good care of ourselves as we do others. I hope you will be as inspired as I am by “The Journey” and the beautiful music and photography which accompany it. Click here to listen.

As always, let us know what you think.

Namaste.

Thanks, Karen Kleiman. Let’s Keep Our History Alive!

Two weeks ago in her weekly blog, my colleague and friend, Karen Kleiman, of the Postpartum Stress Center, thanked ten of us who had been involved in promoting awareness and education of postpartum depression. It felt wonderful to be recognized among such an esteemed group of women, many whom I’m happy to say are friends.

It also made me think about a book I’ve been reading, Crones Don’t Whine by Dr. Jean Shinoda Bolen, and the importance of having gratitude for the women who have come before us and cleared the way for us to follow. I remember 28 years ago when I became one of the psychologists associated with PPD (postpartum depression) and other postpartum conditions (anxiety, OCD, PTSD, PPP), there were two women whose tireless efforts led the field now called “perinatal mental health” to what’s it’s become: Jane Honikman and Nancy Berchtold.

Both were survivors of postpartum conditions and had the courage to speak out, each in their own way, about how we needed to pay attention to these conditions women were experiencing after childbirth for the mom’s and her family’s health. Long before others, these two pioneers dared speak the unspeakable, that motherhood is not always bliss, and that most women who experience PPD suffered in silence and tried not to let it show so as not to be judged a “bad mom.”

They helped many of us start a journey which continues to be an important part of our lives today. I know it has been in mine. Here’s to you Jane and Nancy for your passion, leadership and inspiration.

With much gratitude and affection.

Namaste.

 

Living Self-Care: A Mindful Journey

Last week we started a new class Living Self-Care: A Mindful Journey at the Midwest Mind Body Health Center in STL which Stacey and I hope to offer online next month. We talked about our five mindfulness foundation skills, practiced “Simply Breathe,” and discussed how we could take care of “Our Bodies” outside of class.

My students gently reminded me how challenging it is to practice self-care and mindfulness outside of class and how helpful it is to have a group in which we deliberately set aside time to practice and how much they’d missed this. Honestly, I missed it too. Although I make time usually for self-care or mindfulness, I was also more lax since our weekly meetings stopped.

Likewise, because I often teach “formal” skills/exercises in class, I realized I hadn’t said enough about how to practice “informally” throughout the day with the opportunities that naturally occur. For example, today when I was out for a walk, I stopped to look and listen to a passing train until the caboose went by. Or the other day, noticing the passing clouds in the sky instead of rehearsing my to-do list. Or, being in the shower, and paying attention to the smell of the soap, the sound of the water hitting my skin and the way it feels when I open the shower door to grab my towel.

This week, see if you can find a group of like-minded souls to spend some mindful time together or look for ways to add informal practice wherever and whatever you’re doing. For formal practice, check out the “Simply Breathe” video above.

Best to each of you. Namaste.